Parental guilt

We all feel guilty for some of our decisions we make regarding our children! Is there any benefit for the child or the parent?
I’m pretty sure you’re still with me here.
Over the last couple of weeks, I have been thinking about some of the things that we do for/to our kids so that we can feel less guilty for having to make those hard decisions for our children.
Recently I met a women that has similar food restrictions in her family, as we do in our home. She was telling us how, many years ago she was feeling sorry(guilty) that her child had so many restrictions on thier diet. She let them have a sandwich(the child is celiac and SCD as well) and this created many months of undesirable consequences for the child and more guilt for he parent!
I have felt the same way many times, just wondering if it is all worth it. When your friends and family scauf at you because you say stuff like “our child can’t have sugar”. They say stuff like “what candy can they have?” like you didn’t spend years with your child in pain and years of frustration trying to figure a way for them NOT to hurt! Like having sugar and cookies are the answer! Yeah, just a little of that @#it that we have all been eating for years seems to be making everyone so healthy! Don’t you think that if we didn’t really need to do this we wouldn’t?
What about those people that “cheat” as they call it?
With celiac disease I don’t see the same consequences as having that pancake breakfast when you are following weight watchers or something like it. So called, cheating is in a sense, poisoning your body and just not seeing the results for a long time. Some parents let their kids “cheat” every so often, obviously out of guilt!
Are we not here to help our children learn lessons?
Just because they are hard decisions doesn’t mean that you should feel guilty.
I urge you to not fall into that trap. It is harder to do the right thing on all accounts, but our world will soon include celiac disease and SCD the same way it has started to understand peanut allergies. Our children will be making waves and demanding choices that fit their needs.
I just finished hosting one of my best Thanksgiving dinners ever! I’m less boasting, more grateful for some of the great ideas that I have gathered from various websites plus some trial and error. and have been such a blessing for my family. When I here from others in our community and the struggles that they face with family members or friends not empathizing, I cringe at how hard this is for the parents. We have worked very hard to help our daughter to be able to understand her own body so that she will be able to tell people, with confidence, that she may not be able to eat the same way! I am grateful and blessed for every hurdle that we face, so we can learn and teach on the way to a stronger family as a whole.
We certainly all start our parental journey trepidatiously making mistakes, but hoping to learn and be better tomorrow. I’ve caught myself being critical and it sure is destructive. Be good to eachother and be good to yourself. This is valuable as a lesson to your children as much as any other subject.

Are you a survivor?

Are you ready to give up?

Overcoming Any Illness

By: Jordan Reasoner

Looking back at what it took to get my health where it is today, there were hundreds of moments when I almost gave up.

These were the times I was so sick, so weak and so tired… that I was ready to quit.  Ready to give up.  Ready to be done with all this…

But in those moments, when I was teetering on the edge, something always got me through the day.  And the next day.  And the next day.  Until things got a little better.

Sometimes it was watching my son sleep.  Or my daughter’s deep blue eyes and her smile.

Other times, it took more.

Recently, a YouTube video shook me out of some personal stuff I was going through.

It was so powerful, I watched it 17 times in a row. 

Something about it resonated not only with what I was going through at the time, but with something I’ve been wanting to write for you… but didn’t quite know how to say it.

About what it takes to overcome chronic illness

And with that in mind, I’m going to paraphrase some of the messages from the video and put them into the context I’ve been wanting to write for you.

I hope you enjoy it (and you can watch the original video I’m talking about at the bottom):

[Here’s the beginning of one guys humble, paraphrased Eric Thomas moment]

I’ve been reading your Facebook posts.  Your emails.

Some of you are like, “I can’t do this anymore guys.  I can’t make it another day… I’m frustrated.  I can’t take another setback.”

I’ve been reading that you’re tired.  Some of you are scared.  Some of you are hurt.  I know.  I’ve been there.

And I need you to do me a favor.

Don’t worry about the rest of this year.

Don’t worry about the rest of this month.

I’m not even interested in how you feel about tomorrow.

Do me one single favor…

Just survive today

I just need you to survive today.

I know you’re thinking “I can’t go through another day like this.”  “I can’t handle it.”

Whatever your illness is… I want you to look at the sickness in your life and think, “I can beat this!”

“I’ve got kids to live for!”

“I’ve got a family to live for!”

“I’m not through yet!”

“My life isn’t over yet!”

I went from being sick as hell to where I am now, and the first thing I did was to say, “I can get through this.”

I outlasted it.  I outlasted every single tear I shed on the toilet.

Some things in life, you just have to tell yourself, “I’m going to get through this.”

I wasn’t the strongest guy, but I made up in my mind, “I’m going to get through this.”

What was the one thing I did that most people aren’t willing to do?  I just plain never gave up.  I never quit.

Most people that fail give up. 

It’s about making up your mind that you’re not going to give up. That you’re not going to quit.

Just because you’re not better yet doesn’t mean you’re a loser.  Just because the last supplement you tried didn’t help doesn’t mean the next one won’t.

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy.  It wasn’t easy for me.  I had setbacks.  I had hundreds of days I wanted to give up.

But I want you to know is this: You can get through anything if you tell yourself, “I am a survivor.”

If you’re reading this right now, I know you’re not a quitter

You’re a survivor.  I KNOW YOU’RE A SURVIVOR.

So please… just survive today.

And know this: If you were going to give up, you would’ve gave up a long time ago.  You would have quit years ago.  But you’ve come this far.  You’ve worked SO HARD.  You’ve already put in the blood, sweat, and tears to get to this point.

Get something out of it!

Don’t give up and don’t give in… and there’s absolutely nothing you can’t overcome.  Even your impossible illness.

[Here’s the end of one guys humble, paraphrased Eric Thomas moment]

Are you free Tuesday night?

There’s nothing that would make me more grateful than continuing this message with youon Tuesday night.  To give you all the information I can in 60-minutes to speed up your recovery…  to give you back your life…  to help you take control of your symptoms.

On TUES night, we’re doing another free live call on the gut-brain-hormone axis and I hope you can be there.  This one is scheduled for later in the evening so more people can attend (or if you couldn’t make the last one).

Register here to grab a seat:

– Jordan

P.S. – Below is the original Eric Thomas video I graciously paraphrased in this post.  Steve and I have been watching his videos for a few years… but this one broke me down into tears and shifted something in me.  Please watch it, as it carries the original emotion only ET can inspire (and I only touched on with my humble paraphrasing):

Eric Thomas Video

Dad’s GF chocolate “ice cream”

Being the first day back to school, after dinner I thought I would try to make chocolate ice cream for my girls. I haven’t tried this, but I had heard of the idea and I like to “wing it” sometimes!
I had tried sweet potato ice cream before but it wasn’t great.
The challenges that we have is that our one daughter is off dairy(we would like it if we all excluded it, but that is another matter) no sugar, as well as celiac.
So I pulled out my container of frozen bananas, honey, cocoa and coconut milk for the experiment.
Here is the recipe:
Everything is approximate. So you may have to play around with the measurements a bit until you are happy with your results.
Start with about 4 frozen bananas in the blender
1 tablespoon of honey
1 heaping tablespoon of the best cocoa that you can find
1/4 cup of coconut milk(or almond milk)

This is a real blender test!
Blend well until thick and malt like consistency.
Most recently, I like to add chopped pecan for the extra calories.